A lot of suffering comes from blowing up events out of proportion and consequently suffering the same.

This happens both in pain and pleasure. The mind is great at stoking unnecessary fears and at the same time going on a fantasy journey! Whether it be events in your family, with friends or at work - they are but one aspect of life. The higher the attachment to those events, higher is the magnification. The lower the self esteem or confidence, the higher the chances of blowing out of proportion of even small events.

A perfectly logical analysis of events will help separate the wheat from the chaff. If focused on just the substance and its nature lot of anxiety associated with everyday events will be minimized.